Valentine’s Day For Singletons

If you’re looking for love you might invoke Frey or Freyja, Sigyn or Frigga. From the Egyptian pantheon you may call upon Isis and Osiris, or the goddess of love and sensuality, Hathor. If you are single, however, I would suggest honouring one person above all others today: yourself.

If Valentine’s Day can seem like a reminder of a life or dream as yet unfulfilled, an annoying commercial opportunity or just another day on the calendar, turn it around. Take this day to honour and respect the one person who you should take care of above all others, who deserves to be loved and feel special. I’m not saying others don’t deserve your love, quite the contrary, but if you don’t take a little time to care for yourself then how can you give fully to others?

Take this day to remember what love you do have in your life: family, friends, animals and other blessings. February 14th was my beloved cat’s birthday, and now every year I give thanks that he was a part of my life, and for the love, joy and happiness he brought to me.

Another way could be to pamper or treat yourself to a little something, or simply take time to reflect on what is important to you. One thing I have learned that holds the most personal empowerment is to stop telling yourself you’re not good enough, not worthy of love. Negativity breeds negativity. If you undermine yourself regularly enough you start to believe it. Instead of letting Valentine’s Day pass with sadness, regret, annoyance, or even without a thought, try to spend the day silencing your inner critic. It can be very difficult if it’s something that’s become ingrained over the years, but it’s one of the most loving things you can do for yourself.

Think of the things you are good at, however small they may seem, and find the features you do like about yourself. Tell yourself you are a beautiful person worthy of love in all its forms. Perhaps it may take longer for some of us than others to find romantic love, a soulmate, but until then you can learn to bring the energies of love into your own life. Honour yourself, be true to yourself, and eventually others will see it too.

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2 thoughts on “Valentine’s Day For Singletons

  1. Ahh, your post is spectacular. Much truth within. Sometimes we need to be reminded to love ourselves, be thankful for the days so far, look around and appreciate. I am fortunate to be spending the day with my husband but during our get away, I will bring up in conversation for both of us to take a moment to hug ourselves individually. Honestly am going to do this with him!

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