Note: I’m not an expert on Spirit Work but I have been working with my own (personal, not professional) form for around 10 years now, and I do understand it may mean different things to different people. While I have made mistakes, and while I’m still learning and getting better acquainted with it as a more serious practice, I feel it’s important to get other people thinking about their own approach.
(EDIT: I removed a section relating to an experience with another Spirit Worker because leaving it up didn’t sit right with me.)
Detaching from our own mindset, baggage and filter is crucial for Spirit Work, but most especially when it is for someone we know. Obviously we all have a filter, but not thinking over what comes through with our own mindset seems like something that’s very important.
As my mum has begun her own Underworld journey I am having to learn this need for Detachment in Spirit Work myself. I have to ‘remove’ my own filter and just say what needs to be said. Of course I have to give interpretations of things that aren’t as clear-cut – like impressions, sensations, feelings and images – but it has been a really big learning curve for me. And I’m not infallible.
You can’t just ‘un-know’ someone but you can learn to detach and (temporarily) stop seeing this person as family member/ partner/ friend/ aquaintance. It’s about allowing the information to flow without over-thinking or over-analysing it in relation to us or what we already know about the person.
By doing this I’ve had to pass on some messages to my mum that I would prefer (as her daughter) she didn’t have to hear. But in my role as Messenger I can’t let that affect what she needs to be told. I might want to protect her from hearing those things, I might prefer for her not to have to hear certain things, but if I put it through my Daughter filter I won’t be doing the work Spirit/ Deity/ Whoever needs me to.
With someone we know we have to detach from the Family Member/ Partner/ Friend/ Acquaintance aspect of ourselves and assume the mantle of Spirit Worker.
This is not to say we have to ‘give it to them straight’ – we can warn or say it might not be what they wish to hear – but we shouldn’t alter or omit because we don’t want for them to have to hear something or because we might fear these things. We are the Spirit Worker. Interpreting and relaying the message is our job, not picking and choosing what we pass on.
This, to me, is basic responsible practice, and if done with care even the hardest, scariest or most awe-full messages can be passed on to give what is needed.